Marriage.

I don't know what being married to the person you love feels like. Just thinking about spending eternity with the one you love... makes my heart race. I have no idea what it feels like, for now... to have a family with your other half... But what is marriage anyway?

With the power of Google I searched it's meaning.

According to Wikipedia, Marriage (or wedlock) is a social union or legal contract between people that creates kinship. It is an institution in which interpersonal relationships, usually intimate and sexual, are acknowledged in a variety of ways, depending on the culture or subculture in which it is found. Such a union, often formalized via a wedding ceremony, may also be called matrimony.
People marry for many reasons, including one or more of the following: legal, social, libidinal, emotional, economic, spiritual, and religious.


A website called Psychology Today describes marriage as the process by which two people who love each other make their relationship public, official, and permanent. It is the joining of two people in a bond that putatively lasts until death, but in practice is increasingly cut short by divorce.

Having witnessed my parents' divorce, I have doubted the lasting power of marriage. Never ending... that's how it's supposed to be right? Getting a divorce, for me, isn't wrong. Getting married too early is the problem that made them undergo divorce afterwards. They were too impatient. They thought they found the right person for them.

The right person...  By experiencing unrequited loves and heartbreaks, we unknowingly close our hearts every single time we get hurt. That's why we put up standards after standards which make it so hard for us to find the right person for us. Some have already met with their soul mates but they haven't realized it yet. How do we know that a person is the one for us? Some people say that you'll "just know".

There's this book titled Mars and Venus on a Date by John Gray that I am currently reading that was lent to me by my friend, Keith. It says there that there are certain steps to get to marriage with the one you truly love. There are five stages: attraction, uncertainty, exclusivity, intimacy, and finally, engagement. :) We have to go through these stages slowly to create a loving and lasting relationship.

I'm past the attraction stage. I can say that me and P are on the uncertainty stage now. :) Yes, I'm having doubts. I am not sure where our relationship is going... but one thing I'm certain of is that I don't want this feeling to end. Wherever this will lead me, I'll just let it be. In the uncertainty stage, as stated in the book, "Even though you may not be sure, if a part of you wants to pursue the relationship and if you want to prepare yourself to know for sure, then is time to move on to stage three and have an exclusive relationship. :)


But of course, how you handle or how you work your relationship is up to you. No book nor person can tell you what to do or what you should do. In the end, you just have to follow your heart. :)

Have you met the one? You have to be careful. You may experience a lot of heartbreaks but let each every heartbreak be a lesson. Being physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually attached to a person can only mean love. Listen and follow your heart, and nothing can go wrong. Go find that person, or if you believe you have found him/her go build a bridge towards your destiny. :)

Marriage... I still have a lot to go through to understand what it means and what it feels like to be married. Right now... I have to focus on myself. Gotta love yourself first before you can truly love your partner.

I don't know where this speech is going I'm not making any sense at all am I? -___-

UGHHHHH GOTTA WORK ON THIS -_____- This is for my speech in English class. Can't focus! -____-